Today we’re going to talk about how you can help your children stop comparing themselves to others. If you need this as well, the steps are transferable to adults.
Before I continue, I want to let you know that you’ll need to download your Self-Esteem Planner for comparison for step 1. While the more detailed version of this is in my store, because you’re here and I appreciate you, as a gift, I’m giving it to you for free. So, go ahead and download it now.
Are your students comparing themselves to others?
If the answer is yes, then guess what? Everyone does it. Remind them about that.
It’s normal and okay to do it. I’ve never met anyone, present company included, who doesn’t compare themselves to others, especially when they feel that others are passing them by in specific areas of interest.
What most children forget, is that depending on your circumstance, there’s more than enough resources for all of us, especially if we don’t rush, take our time to create a solid plan and stay focused.
However, the need to compare can crush so many children’s spirits so let’s address how to help them move pass this feeling.
Before we get into the actionable steps, I want you to remember the following for your yourself and please teach it to your children as well:
Actionable Steps:
#1: Evaluate the Loved Ones and the Others
Take a look at your family and friends and look at how they’re treating you. If they’re treating you poorly enough that you’re having to compare yourself to them or others, then it may be time to have a conversation with them about how that behavior is harmful to you. If they don’t listen, you may need to take a step back from them.
For social media, I’d recommend, temporarily, if not permanently, unfollowing some people to give you some peace of mind. Please don’t rely on willpower because my friend, you will eventually give in, so unfollow people if that’s what you’re using to compare yourself to others.
In order to help you with this section, so that you’re making an informed decision, I’ve created a FREE RESOURCE for you. This is also a paid resource in my store but for you, because you’re taking the time to be there, I’d like to give this as a gift to you for FREE so that you can get started right away.
#2. Be Thankful
Take a moment to be thankful for all of the good in your life because when you’re able to reframe the negative into positive, your outlook on life will be so much brighter and you won’t have a need to compare yourself to someone else.
If you’d like a resource to help get you started, click on this link or click on the image below and focus on gratitude.
#3. Love It and Plan It!
Have your children find something that they LOVE doing. Brainstorm ideas with them and have them focus on it whenever the need to compare arises. For this activity, set some clear rules, such as using the internet for research but not for social media, or discussing your ideas with others to learn more but not to talk about what others are doing.
Once they have an idea, have them plan out their steps to work on what they love. For some children, this may be daunting, so let them start with the first three steps and refine what they’re working on before moving forward.
For this step, you can teach them to plan by using THIS FREE PLANNER that’s located in the FREE resource library:
Or go into more depth WITH THE FOLLOWING PLANNERS:
#4: Focus on Progress
Have your students gauge their progress over time. The goal is for them to see their growth and how far they’ve come over time.
For guidance and resources to help you navigate this within your classroom, check out The Creative Child Community.
If you liked the FREE resource from today’s lesson, we’ll be going into more depth about topics like this in The Creative Child Community.
Recap:
Here are the 4 steps that will help your children move past comparing themselves to others and focus on the beauty in their own lives:
- Evaluate the loved ones and the others
- Be thankful
- Love it and plan it
- Focus on progress
Additional Thoughts:
My hope is that as you reduce the amount of time you spend on comparing yourself to others, your self-confidence will increase.
Now while this is only a starting point, if you need additional support, download your FREE journal from the FREE education resource library and let’s get started.
Next Steps:
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Until next week, remember to create, experience & teach from the heart.
Take care,
Charlotte
