Today we’re going to talk about how to feel more in control of your life.
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The moments in our lives are made up of a series of decisions and how we feel about them.
Sometimes our decisions go the way we want them to and other times they don’t quite work out. When they don’t, depending on the situation, it can really wreak havoc on our lives and at times, we can lose our way.
This happened to me when I was told by a person who should have been a mentor, then I shouldn’t be a teacher. Over time, I believed it and almost decided to look into another career option. But see, teaching is a calling and it’s in my bones.
So I got control of my life and my inner voice by following the four steps that are outlined below.
#1: Trust Yourself
When things don’t work out, trust that you made the best choices for yourself and your loved ones.
Remember that everything happens for a reason. You can either choose to view a situation from an empowering or a disempowering perspective.
Think of it like driving a car. Sometimes you get stuck in traffic and need to take a detour. But if you focus on your end goal and keep moving forward, and trust that you will get there, then that’s exactly what will happen.
#2. Mange Your Emotions
Focus on where you are right now and don’t look everywhere and worry about what others are doing or thinking about you, or where you believe should be. Not only will that slow your progress down, but it will also create more frustration and angst within you.
Take some deep refreshing breaths, still your mind and know that you are exactly where you should be and think of every obstacle as a learning moment.
If you’re looking for ways to help your students with managing their emotions, I have a FREE resource to help you create a calm down area for your younger children and for your teenagers.
I also have a paid version with emotions and reflection guides to help you teach this concept to them.
#3. Say ‘No.’
There are times when you really want or need to do something for ourselves, but others ask you to do something else, which, either serve as a distraction or being the nice person that you are, you say, ‘yes.’ However, in order to make progress, you need to learn how to say ‘no’ to things that will distract you and ‘yes’ to things that matter to you.
At the beginning it may feel uncomfortable and you may need to say ‘no’ to everything until you get the hang of it, but once you do, you can ease up a bit.
#4. Make a Plan
The final step is to make a plan and to take immediate action so that you can take control or charge or your life. In order to make a solid plan and stick to it, I have a FREE planner to help you get started.
I also have a paid one to go into more depth.
Once you have a plan, put on blinders, don’t look anywhere but at your work and focus so that you can make progress.
Here are the 4 steps that will help you move past a break up and heal your broken heart:
- Trust yourself
- Manage your emotions
- Say ‘no’
- Make a plan
My hope is that as you take charge of your life, and gain momentum, your self-confidence will increase.
Now while this is only a starting point, if you need additional support, download the free guide that’s associated with this video, “The Top 10 Ways to Build Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence.”
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Until I see you next time, remember to create, experience & teach from the heart.