Today we’re going to talk about how you and your children can overcome difficult times and build resiliency.
If you’re going through difficult times, know that I understand and can empathize with how you’re feeling. If you’ve watched any of my videos from before, you know that I’ve been through my own hell and back.
When I was a child, and most especially during my teenage and early adult years, I struggled because I didn’t know how to manage my emotions or process what I was going through.
If you’re going through something like this, or if you know someone’s going through this, I encourage you to share this with them. If you have children, please teach this to them, especially during their teenage years, when emotions are flaring up because they’re trying to navigate through this different stage in their life.
This is so important because:
#1: Reflect and Acknowledge
Figure out what went wrong, then acknowledge your feelings and feel them.
Take out your pen and paper and really tease this out.
- What happened? What went wrong?
2. Don’t place blame. Really take some time to focus on what went wrong and the underlying reasons
- Don’t place blame. Really take some time to focus on what went wrong and the underlying reasons behind it.
3. Lay out the process that you went through.
- How did you manage it?
- What could or should you have done differently?
4. How are you feeling right now?
- No matter what you’re feeling, I want you to acknowledge it and actually go through the process of facing it. Sit with it for about a week if you need to, but no more than that, because if you stay in this space indefinitely, you’re going to get sucked into it. This process is important though, because if you don’t deal with it, it will flare up in conjunction with another occurrence and then you’ll have to deal with two situations instead of one, which will be so much more taxing on you.
#2. Take Action
Now that you know what went wrong, let’s figure out what’s one small step you can take to move past this hurdle.
For example, a couple of weeks ago, we talked about a break up. If that’s the case, perhaps you need to call a friend to go out. If you’ve been through an abusive relationship, maybe you need to contact someone for support. You may need a new job because you lost yours, you may need to work on parts of your cover letter.
#3. Prioritize Self-Care
Focus on how you can take care of yourself.
Do you need to eat more wholesome foods? Do you need more sleep?
Really focus on what you can do to help yourself feel better in a healthy way.
If you’d like support, check out my FREE resource library for access to relaxing self-care strategies and a journaling guide to help you navigate through this process.
#4. Learn Something New
Learning something new, like taking a course, will enable you to move forward and grow from this situation.
Maybe you were lacking a specific strategy and need to learn more about it. Perhaps you need to take a course about it or read some material to find your solution.
Take 15 minutes or half an hour to focus on this step.
If you’re unable to find time, make sure to prioritize self-care first, because you can always listen to audio books and so much more during your commutes.
Beyond learning. Go one step further and take action based on the learned material.
#5. Ask for Help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help because it’s not an easy step and is therefore, a strength and not a weakness.
However, make sure you follow the first four steps before you ask for help because learned helplessness does exist and that’s not what I’m here to teach you. Ask for help when you need it.
Here are the 5 steps that will help you overcome difficult times and build resiliency:
- Reflect on what went wrong and acknowledge your feelings
- Take action- one small step forward
- Prioritize self-care
- Learn something new
- Ask for help
If you found this video beneficial, would you do me a favour? Share this with your family, your friends, your loved ones, your co-workers or someone who you think could benefit from this. Thank you!
I’ll see you next Friday at 5:30pm PST.
Until I see you next time, remember to create, experience & teach from the heart.